First published in MennoDiscuss:
I think that the most important thing we should remember is that a Christian marriage should be a little congregation.
We should hold each other accountable to living in Jesus and obeying Him. We should restore each other with gentleness and with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. We should be aware of each other's needs and meet them when we can. We should pray for each other, especially when one is in difficult circumstances. We should rejoice when the other is rejoicing and weep when the other is weeping. And while the wife is to submit and the husband is to sacrificially love, this will often look on the outside as the couple submitting to each other. And there should be no place for pride in a marriage.
Obviously, this is a goal. My wife and I are still working on it. If we acheive it, we'll let you know.