Christianity always does itself a disservice when they tell each other lies about how life "should" be. "You should be joyful" "Believe that you are at peace and you will be" "You should be forgiving" "Just have faith that you are well and you will be well" . Our emotions are God-given and they teach us things about ourselves. God is not there to teach us about how we should be but to help us recognize our weaknesses, sorrows and poverty and to offer real salvation from them.
Let's not invent our salvation in our own minds.